Having only exchanged brief, common courtesies via phone with my guy’s ex, I can say that it is necessary for you to be cordial in this situation, because you’ll be interacting with her child as well. Seeing a man with a child does give an inclination of the type of father he makes, and females – me included – tend to look for that particular quality when choosing our mates.In my case, we haven’t really had any tension thus far. there are many people out there who have a child with their ex. Coming to terms with it depends on what the single (and childless) individual is willing to accept, all in the name of love and finding ‘the one’. Possessing the ideal qualities is what would make the final deal in him becoming a potential husband.If you are on the fence about wanting kids, forcing yourself into a pre-established family adds so many pressures, and it’s not necessarily worth the hassle unless you live somewhere where there are truly few to no other dating options.
After all, it’s not just the fact that you have to make it work with the person you’re dating and the child that comes along with him or her, but you also have to deal with the ex who is the other parent to that child.
For some of you, the risk is worth it; for others, it’s not.
Prior to meeting this new person, did you know that you wanted kids?
If you’ve ever babysat, you know one kid is easier than three or four. The divorced dad doesn’t have to get along with his ex all the time, but if their relationship is rocky or she is a mean or difficult person, this can create strain on your relationship.
Another important issue is you: Are you really cut out for dating a single dad?