Recruit a support system of friends and family to help you fill the time normally spent with a significant other. Maybe you’d just rather be in a bad relationship than be in no relationship at all.
Resist the urge, however, to call or text whenever you would have when you were still dating. Ask a close friend if you can call him/her every time you would usually reach out to your ex.
There will be times when it’s important to communicate with an ex. Maybe you have to deal with a shared lease, or pet custody.
“Defriending” or at least hiding statuses can help you avoid the constant temptation to check in and see if your ex is living a life more miserable — or worse, more awesome — than yours. Don’t key his car, kidnap his cat, or destroy his stuff. The temptation may be to pretend you’re unaffected by the breakup; don’t let pride get in the way of being real.
In the same regard, when a relationship ends, it is much much harder for a guy to go back and discuss and revisit and talk through and explain, etc. In fact, guys like to keep their emotional spectrum focused on a tight range of emotions – somewhere between amusement and contentedness.
So any interaction that a guy knows will bring him out of that sweet range of emotions is an interaction he’s going to do everything he can to avoid.
And I like that he was clear about having feelings for you.
When you get out of a relationship, sometimes it takes just a few weeks to move on and sometimes it can take months or even years.
One major change in your life can inspire even more change. Many people feel lost after a breakup; not because they miss their ex, but because so many of their daily habits once revolved around someone else. Social media can be dangerous when dealing with heartache. Instead of clinging to lost hope, find a wise friend who can help you walk through the reasons why you’re having a hard time letting go. Deep down, you know that you don’t want to be in a relationship with someone you had to beg to be with you.To dispel the misconceptions, let’s take a look at some of the universal truths about guys and breakups – some of which may surprise you since they certainly are hidden from the surface. Simple enough to say, but I know plenty of women will talk about how some guy came off like an insensitive jackass after the relationship fell apart because of his actions post-breakup.The fact is: If a guy is profoundly obnoxious or terrible after a breakup, it is most often a testament to how rough the breakup was on him. MORE: 5 Things Every Girl Needs to Know About Guys Jerry Seinfeld once said that breaking up a relationship needs to be like taking off a Band-aid – One motion: OFF!Recently the subject of guys and breakups came up and Sabrina and I went back and forth about what guys generally go through when they breakup.It came down to be too much to put into the article I was writing, so we decided that I should throw it all into an installment of “Decoding Male Behavior.” To start, I wanted to write this article to dispel some of the misconceptions I’ve heard in regards to men and breakups.A REALLY CUTE friend of mine just broke up with his girlfriend yesterday and we were texting about it for about an hour.He flirts with me some already and we get along great.In my head, this was a guy who was really interested in me and was looking to be something more than casual, but then he brought up the "what are we" issue and it completely threw me for a loop.He said that he couldn't date me seriously because six months ago he got out of a long-term relationship and he's still dealing with it. We're not just hooking up..we're not together either.But then he threw this in: He said I'm the first girl since his breakup he's felt an emotional connection with and he still wants to see me. Let's start with the positive here: I like that he was honest with you and didn't ignore the issue until you were forced to bring it up.I like that you're having fun with him, and he seems like a considerate, caring guy to date.