For instance, he may demand all of your free time or discourage you from seeing your friends.A man who exhibits controlling behavior generally does so because he is scared of the vulnerability that is part of loving and trusting his partner, writes psychologist Marie Hartwell-Walker, in “Signs of a Controlling Guy” on the Psych Central website.Just as consistency is important for trust building during infancy, as Erikson points out, it is also imperative for building and sustaining trust in future relationships.If you are trying to talk with a man who has trust issues, being open, accepting and consistent can help get him talking.Consistency between words and actions will help him to feel safe, and if he feels safe he won’t feel he is putting himself at risk by being open toward you, according to psychologist Susan Krauss Whitbourne in her "Psychology Today" article “The One Key Element That Can Build Your Relationships.”When someone has difficulty trusting, it is possible to earn his trust.When talking and interacting with someone who has trust issues there is a trial and error assessment process.Trust issues stemming from infancy or early childhood are much harder to overcome; later trust violations are easier to resolve.Evaluating where the trust issues come from will help in problem solving, according to Casey Truffo in her Theravive article, “How to Fix Trust Issues in a Relationship." This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try talking with men who experienced early trust violations, but to avoid chronic frustration and disappointment, it is important to keep the origin of trust issues in mind.
People have issues with trust in their relationships for many different reasons. Others experienced rejection after falling in love. No matter what your reasons are for not being able to trust someone, it is important to discover how it affects your relationships.A lot of times, prematurely entering relationships leads us to bring unresolved problems from previous relationships.This gives our significant others unfair disadvantages; it hinders them from giving us their all because we never give them a chance to do so.Take a moment to imagine being in a relationship and not worrying at all about the other person leaving or hurting you. This internal struggle to let your guard down may mean that you need to start small and build up to a point where you feel comfortable trusting another.Trust is damaged easily and quickly, and repairing it take time and effort.Your boyfriend may have trust issues due to insecurity.He may not feel like he is good enough for you, may worry that you will leave him for someone else or may unjustly accuse you of cheating.These are some of the signs of trust issues: Do you have a password on your phone? If not, it can be a clear sign that you have some problems with trust.While privacy is an essential, it is mandatory in any relationship.He may have been hurt in the past and is afraid of getting hurt again or he may have learned the behavior by example.If your boyfriend is exhibiting controlling behavior, but is willing to discuss it and make positive changes, continuing your relationship may be worth it, suggests Hartwell-Walker.