There is a basic issue that men struggle with that I would say turns into a huge mistake when it comes to making a relationship work long term...
and it is how men ignore--and at times even celebrate--their emotional immaturity!
Don’t waste your time with a f*ckboy — most of the time, they aren’t even good in bed. Aside from it being super unattractive, it also shows that he really didn’t mature past five years old. How can he properly commit to you if he can’t even commit to going to work? Showing up late on a date is a serious sign of disrespect.
Besides, do you really want to date someone who would embarrass you with a fart joke? Ever notice how kids on a playground will always point to someone they’re arguing with and say, “He started it! Well, a guy who refuses to accept fault when he screwed up isn’t going to be able to handle an argument or face the facts when he’s f*cked up. Clearly he doesn’t take your time seriously and doesn’t value the fact that you’re taking time out of your day to see him.
If you notice a guy acting like a f*ckboy, it’s a clear sign that he is one.
F*ckboys are the epitome of being too immature and too self-centered for a real relationship. If he can’t keep a job, chances are it’s because he’s too immature to do so.
Mistaken, immature and pathological behaviors all become very visible when the spouses interact in front of me.
I see very telling behaviors, especially about the extent to which each partner's actions are rude, hurtful or even dangerously childish--or calm, respectful, and maturely adult. A psychologist from Africa with whom I once spoke at an international psychology conference explained to me that in his country it was common to assess people in terms of both physical age and emotional age.
Adults exercise careful judgment before talking whereas children are prone to impulsive blurting out of hurtful words.
In politics that's like assessing a candidate in a town hall session where one candidate is the sole speaker.
Seeing the same therapy client in a couple therapy session gives me vastly more data.
If he can’t be respectful enough to be on time, it’s time to call it quits. When a guy does this, it’s just painfully gross and extremely unattractive.
It only proves that he’s too much of a baby and a wuss to deal with the problems that life hands us all. Does he feel a need to put others down or make others uncomfortable just so that he gets to feel like the “head honcho”?