Excuse #1: If no one likes my picture, I won’t get any dates You can be sure that without a photo, you also won’t find any dates.Not sharing a picture tells potential suitors that you have something to hide. With the thousands of people joining daily, odds are that someone is going to think you are absolutely stunning, but not if you don’t finish powdering your nose and come out to the party.Photos of people having fun on a night out with friends got 74 percent more likes than the average picture, Hinge found.Bonus: now you and your friends have an even better excuse to snap a million hot Instas when you go out together.It's also the email that sent me on a half-hour-long rant to two (very straight) guy friends here in San Francisco. The following week I received 400 emails, which was not only an overwhelming increase from my weekly average of 40-50, but it also yielded many of the nice men I was looking for. No photos where you have a manic gleam in your eye, or where you seem drunk or even where you're looking arty and contemplative (trust me, you just seem depressed). You want to meet guys who are attracted to you as you are. Don't give away where you currently live, work or go to school (college logos, for example), and NEVER show your home address. You could be at the top of a hike, riding a bike or just jumping in the air.Amused, they listened patiently as I droned on about the objectification of women. About how all the men on were just looking for arm-candy-bimbos. A few hours later, after enduring the indignity of having them comb through my Facebook albums, they showed me the three photos to post. In my initial photos, my goal was to seem as hot as possible. Also: No photos in which you're holding something weird (ceramic animals, plastic baby dolls, snakes, etc.) or that have been through Instagram or Hipstamatic-style editing. Sure, the lighting is great in your bathroom, and your hair looks fabulous. Don't put yourself into a situation where he thinks you're dishonest at first sight. Sorry feline fans, but you don't want to be pegged as a crazy cat lady. You and your dog show you're active and down to earth. Many men like to be active and physical; you want to show you can keep up with them.After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads. My red flags would start waving, though, if I had a few exchanges with the person, and they were unwilling to privately send me a photo, though, of course. I later learned that he doesn't have a lot of close-up photos of himself that aren't in his military uniform, and he wasn't necessarily looking to draw the typical "girl who goes for military guys," whatever that means.My current SO had a pic up that wasn't very close-up, and you couldn't tell much about his appearance other than his build. So he went with one of the few he had that wasn't an on-the-job or Navy Ball pic.
When I was online dating, I got "matched" with two coworkers and a friend's ex-husband. I'm not the sort who cares or was secretive about online dating, but I can see how some people aren't comfortable putting photos up, accordingly.It turns out that I made the same mistake most girls do when they first go online. Are you half naked with your hands caressing your hair? You had your hair and make-up done, and the professional photography is awesome. Here's what the guys hear you saying: All my friends are married but me. Think of your photos as the cover of your autobiography.I went through my photos and posted the ones where I thought I looked pretty. Are you pouting for the camera like you're on the cover of ? You want to make yourself as appealing as you can to the widest selection of men possible.Sure, you're a sexual person, but save that for someone you like. This way it's in your power to choose whom to date and with whom you share your personal details. DO post a head shot where you are dressed down looking happy and easy-going.Hinge found that showing your smile in photos makes them 23 percent more likely to be liked, so stop hiding your pearly whites (especially if your parents shelled out tons of cash for orthodontia).Even though Hinge found that only three percent of users' photos were black and white, those that were 106 times more likely to receive a like than photos in color.And that's when they asked me the question that would change my online dating life: Can we see your profile and photos? I showed no personality and came off as self-absorbed and mindless. But resist the urge to hold up your phone, snap a picture and post it. Men don't want to be reminded of the competition when they are looking for women to date. DO post a shot of you looking fun and/or interesting. A picture of yourself holding a camera (if you're a photographer) or playing the guitar shows you have interests.It shouldn't have been a surprise that the men who contacted me would be the same. What I learned is that there are three questions many men ask themselves when viewing your profile usually in this order: 1. At best you look ashamed to be online, at worst, like a crazy recluse with nobody willing to take your photo. Are you leaning against a wall with your butt sticking out? Also, don't post photos where you cut out your ex-boyfriend people can always tell. Another option is to post a photo where you're out with a friend (just one, not a crowd) looking happy and social.You haven’t posted any pictures online — yet you finally joined as part of your quest to stop kissing toads, right? Worried that once your picture is up that no one will respond?Perhaps you are concerned that someone you know might recognize you? Or are you quite simply struggling about which picture you should post?