So, for example, if he’s a last-born and you’re a first-born, you’ll probably find that you get on extremely well.
But if you’re both only children, there could be problems ahead. Look at it this way: the foundations of your character were established primarily before the age of six or seven - a period when your place in the family was a big factor in your life.
According to their research, only children and last borns supposedly make the best match, followed by first borns and last borns. Following is a quick rundown on six birth-order combinations and why they tend to go wrong or right in a marriage, plus some practical tips for each combination.
Keep in mind there are no guarantees that a certain birth order combination will lead automatically to a successful or miserable marriage.
The youngest child never knew a world in which he or she was the only child.
They're used to sharing their space with other people, not always coming first and being the butt of a joke.
All the attention, the new clothes, the pressure to succeed in everything all the time.
Social scientists have told us lately that firstborns are actually smarter than siblings born further down the line because Mom and Dad simply spent more time with them, enforced homework rules and, frankly, cared more about their success than subsequent siblings. Will never make fiancée sit through the traditional post-engagement evening of Going Through the Family Photo Album to Look at Pictures of Childhood because there are no pictures of childhood.
In the case of firsts, oldest sons tend to be take-charge types, leaders.
Here, in an intriguing extract, clinical psychologist Linda Blair reveals it’s not just your character that’s affected by birth order - but your career and relationships, too. You don’t know much about him yet - but there’s a powerful attraction and you’ve agreed to meet again.
If all goes well, you’ll start seeing each other regularly.
But the point is that there are ) First Born Plus First Born Equals Power Struggle As we've already seen with George and Shirley, when two perfectionistic first borns get together, there is a bumping of heads (i.e., a power struggle).
The issues usually focus on perfectionism and who has control.