“Normal” guys love to write their appeal off as “the uniform,” or the fact that they’re usually in great shape.But there’s a reason the military men you meet, more so than other hot men in uniform (think firefighters, police officers, the UPS guy), are either in relationships, or don’t seem to have a lot of trouble meeting women. At the end of the day, most of these things are qualities any guy could bring to the table, if he really tried.(“Joshi kosei” means “high school girl” in Japanese, and the English initials JK are universally used here to describe the practice.) Although some cafes like this are relatively innocent — those that employ high school girls must close by 10 p.m., which means the men aren’t too late getting home to their wives — there is a large part of this world that is not.What explains the edge military guys have when it comes to online dating? Among our own audiences at Spouse X events, meeting online is always in the top three ways military folks find a mate. We are also always getting letters from women who “met” a military guy online who turns out to be a scammer begging them for money. But for military guys to have an actual advantage before other occupations? Haven’t those women seen the articles about service members on foodstamps? Don’t they get that for every passionate, romantic, picture-worthy homecoming kiss there are (on average) 180 days in which the only lips that touch your own smell like the inside of a sippy cup?? In one study, military men were second in preference only to lawyers. (In case you are interested, women who list themselves as being in law enforcement or the military are among the least successful in the online dating game—which probably tells you something important about their potential partners.) What do these online women think they are getting when they click open the military package? Willing to commit to a job for at least four years at a time.Military men just already seem to have it: Military guys have a higher calling; they’re committed to serving their country, and their loyalty to the nation will take them to war zones, disaster areas, and anywhere they’re called to. You’ve seen “Band of Brothers,” you’ve heard of “no man left behind.” It’s all true.They commit themselves to a purpose, and to one another, all for a greater cause. Just knowing that they are capable of devoting themselves to something else outside of themselves shows a level of unselfishness and integrity that frankly, a lot of people in general don’t seem to have. They haven’t all traveled the world on deployments.“We actually find regular bars uninteresting these days,” he said.
Military men seem pretty great at getting the ladies, and not just during Fleet Week in NYC, where hundreds of hot young Navy guys are greeted on the shores of N. Sorry, boys, it’s not just those things, though the uniforms and muscles do help.
More often, it involves sex -- child prostitution by another name.
"It's easy to talk to these girls," said one man in his 30s who was sitting at a wooden school desk in AKB High School, a cafe in Akihabara, a part of Tokyo known for its subcultures.
Caring about things that actually matter is pretty hot. They may deploy for six months at a time, maybe a whole year.
They may have deployed once, or they may have deployed several times over the course of their careers.