Researchers like Scott Stanley had begun to paint a far more balanced picture of previous findings.
Some cohabitors, it seems, are more equal than others, with one group showing all the telltale signs of disaster that previous research had revealed, and another, luckier group, living happily ever after.
Aaron and Anna, both 29, met at a party in New York City and had dated only a few months before Anna moved to Madison to begin her Ph D at the University of Wisconsin.
"Do you think my boyfriend and I should live together? I could tell from her bloodshot eyes that she'd been pondering the question all night. " I asked "Frankly," she said, smiling weakly, "I'm afraid it'll ruin our relationship." I knew she wasn't exaggerating.Well it really depends how long have you been with the person you were with, but give yourself a break and be single for awhile and enjoy your single life for awhile till you are ready to go out with someone.You should wait until your partner has either been acting suspicious, or no longer to proceed to love you anymore, or you should tell he/she we should see other people, and try to avoid the tears and pain, but if you wanna go through stages of heartbreak i suppose you tell your spouse.But for Sharon, the whole prospect had been terrifying from the start.She'd had more than a few bad relationships, and the last one had died a slow, painful death over the course of three long years, in a tiny apartment that seemed even more suffocating when she and her boyfriend were fighting. And because I knew the research, the very fact that she had so many misgivings was more than enough to give me pause as well. Prior to 2000, many people might have advised Sharon against moving in with her boyfriend, no matter how well they'd been getting along.Despite all the different ways to connect with someone 3,000 miles away, I was over it. So I did what any lovesick, still-living-with-her-parents, 25-year-old would do. But all of the excitement and love in the world won’t get you through the first year of living with your partner. One of the main reasons it worked for us is because I had more than butterflies and daydreams backing up my trust in this move, for all intents and purposes, to be with a perfect stranger.After spending maybe a total of 20 days together in person, I packed up my world and hauled ass to California. Especially if you’ve only been dating for three months. Our mothers were childhood friends and my mom had known this young man since he was born.Everyone's predicament is not the same when it comes to a breakup.Also it just depends on how long you were with your previous partner.By now, you’ve probably realized that there’s a lot more to it than just moving your stuff to a new place – like finding new digs, sorting through your stuff to decide what stays and what goes, talking about money and how much rent you both can afford, and getting mentally prepared to share a space with each other 24/7.Because we’ve been there, Moveline has put together this handy guide for couples moving in together for the first time with practical tips and advice to make your move a little easier and less stressful.