So how can one month of six dates turn into an exclusive relationship? People tend to spend at least three to four hours on a good date (and that's a conservative estimate), which means after six dates (assuming no sleepovers), you've spent almost 24 hours together.According to Time Out, people ask for sex after 3.53 dates; previous surveys have estimated that we're willing to both kiss and sleep with someone after just two to five dates.
According to a Google Consumer Survey conducted by Mic of 3,058 individuals in February, the most common timetable for having the "exclusive" talk in a relationship was less than four weeks. If four weeks sounds surprisingly short, it actually isn't. It's that the dating game has changed — maybe for the better.
Which brings us to a notion that I articulated in which has a funny way of always resurfacing on this blog: “Men look for sex and find love.” This doesn’t mean he’s a player or a liar or a loser. The way he figures out if he really wants to be in a relationship with you is based on the quality time you spend talking over that first month or two.
This doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to be a good husband and father one day. This is completely separate from his desire to sleep with you.
Invariably if the person I’m speaking to has been single at any point in the last decade, then yes, they know exactly what I mean, because if there’s one scenario that’s become endemic amongst myself and my peers, it’s our inability to define a relationship after the first five or six dates. Is it too soon to refer to someone as your boyfriend? If you’ve been on 12 dates with someone, you really don’t still want to be seeing other people do you?
But if you’re not seeing anyone else, and you’re seeing a lot of each other what on earth is it if it’s not a relationship?