Communicate your expectations and hopes and get on the same dating page.It's not just Jennifer Aniston and Demi Moore who look amazing and decades younger than they actually are.
To them, cementing rules make them feel powerful and in control of their bodies and their sex. Many of the women in my circle, who share my age and experience, completely dismiss the ninety-day dating rule as pure and utter bullsh*t.
When we meet someone that strikes our fancy and turns us on there is an actual chemical surge that happens, first in brain, and the rest of us follows. You’re just dating, getting to know someone, maybe falling in love, right? And that’s the more civilized brain surfacing to try and make sense out of the lovely feelings of attraction and desire those hormones are throwing around.
It takes a bit of personal work to maintain awareness when our hormones are surging around like crazy because nature made us a little crazy when it comes to love – or more precisely the mating game.
As a feminist and one who advocates for women to be released from all rules that govern how, when, where and why we sex, I am totally against blanket guidelines being provided to women (who obviously have had unsuccessful relationships and are looking for answers) that may or may not be beneficial to them as individuals.
Meaning, one woman can decide that she is ready to have sex after an initial meeting, and another may need years of contemplation before taking such a step; neither method of thinking is right or wrong.